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Relationship and Disability

Relationship and disability 


Many asked me about relationships and disability. Well let's talk about it. 

What is a relationship? It's two people independently coming together to live their best version out. It's not an escape from loneliness. It's two people sharing happiness, joy, and love to each other. It's actually about yourself with another person. It reflects you like a mirror. You will learn more about yourself in a relationship. The other is there as a blessing to be a witness of your transformation. But many fail to understand this and it creates such chaos. Relationship is definitely it's not meant to fight or argue all day long😂 

Relationships are already a big task for a normal able body. Being disabled while having a relationship is another whole story. 

Can a disabled person have a relationship? Definitely can! And I think you should have! Because you will learn about others and so many beautiful values.

As a disabled person I see the amount of demands that are needed. Medication, treatments, appointments, doctors, healthy diet, risks, disability aids and so many things come first before a relationship. Even though I try my level best to be independent with my disabled body, I am still dependent on others. It's not easy to ask for help but I need to. If my partner fails to understand this, then it's difficult to be in a relationship. 

Sometimes it feels like you are asking so much from others to take care of you for your needs but it's a fact for disabled body. 

Personal views (please have your own view on this) 

If your partner doesn't understand what's going on inside your body, it's hard to be together. You must also learn about other people, they have their own problems in life and you two need to work things together. As for me, it was really hard to be with someone when they needed us the most. I failed to meet the demand that was required in the relationship as my health was failing apart on the other hand. 

I needed to learn about myself and how to be  with others. I think I failed in my relationship. I'm not judging myself but for now yes I failed. It's huge work. It requires more than myself. My body can't even support myself, and how can I support others? But I'm speaking from my point of view. Your point of view might be different from mine.

Let me tell you the beauty of being in a relationship. You will:

- grow & shine

- learn about others

- understand how to deal a problem positively

- encourage each other to do things that you never imagined 

- many more! (I can't think of it more)


Ohw yes there are toxic relationships but I don't want to talk about it. 

Lastly, whether you're disabled or not, it's about yourself. This is your life. And you got to live the best version of yourself. Everything in your life reflects you, not your partner or anyone. Living yourself out is the real mission! 



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